We’ve all been there, thinking we found our ride-or-die, only to realize they might actually be the villain in our story. The tea is, not all friendships are healthy, and some are downright toxic. So, before you continue hyping up your BFF who low-key drains your energy, let’s talk about the red flags you need to stop ignoring.
1. They Make Everything About Themselves
Ever tried venting about a bad day, only for your bestie to hijack the conversation with their own sob story? You: “Ugh, I failed my math test.” Them: “Omg, remember when I got a B+ in third grade? I was devastated!”
Bestie, this ain’t a competition. Friends support each other, not steal the spotlight like it’s a Broadway audition.
2. They Give Backhanded Compliments
“Omg, that outfit is sooo bold. I could never pull that off!” Translation? You look like a clown, but I’m too fake to say it outright.
If your so-called friend can’t hype you up without sneaking in a little insult, they’re not a friend, they’re a shady critic with main character syndrome.
3. They Disappear When You Need Them
You’re always there for them, but the second you need a shoulder to cry on? Poof! They’re gone faster than your motivation to do homework.
If your friendship feels like a one-way street, it’s time to take a detour and find people who actually care.
4. They Secretly Love Drama (Especially Yours)
Have you ever told them something personal, only to have it mysteriously spread faster than a TikTok trend?
Sis, if your business keeps “accidentally” getting leaked, congratulations! You’re besties with a gossip columnist. Get out before they turn your life into their next scandal.
5. You Feel Exhausted After Hanging Out
A good friendship should feel like a cozy hoodie, not a tight corset that leaves you gasping for air.
If you always feel drained, anxious, or like you need a detox after hanging out, that’s your gut telling you this person is NOT good for your mental health.
Final Mic Drop: What Now?
If you just checked off more than one of these red flags, it’s time for some serious reflection. Friendships should lift you up, not bring you down. Don’t be afraid to distance yourself and invest in people who actually care about you.
Have you ever had to cut off a toxic friend? Spill the tea in the comments!