So, he ghosted you. Or maybe he said the worst six words in the history of existence: “We need to take a break.” (Cue dramatic eye roll.) Whatever happened, one thing is clear, you’re feeling like a discarded sock, and that is not the vibe.
But guess what? You are still that girl. And no boy (or girl, or talking stage that never went anywhere) gets to dim your shine. So, let’s get you back to your radiant, unstoppable self. Here are 10 ways to feel like a glowing goddess again after heartbreak.
1. Give Yourself a Glow-Up (Out of Spite, Obviously)
Nothing says “I’m over it” like looking absolutely stunning while they’re still wearing that ugly hoodie from 2016. Do a skincare refresh, get a bold new hairstyle, or even just start wearing that lip gloss that makes you feel like a Bratz doll. Who cares if it’s petty? Petty looks good on you.
2. Unfollow, Block, Delete, Repeat
Your future self will thank you for this one. Stop doom-scrolling their Instagram, wondering if that blurry hand in their story is a new girl. It doesn’t matter. Block. Mute. Unfollow. You’re reclaiming your peace.
3. Get Outside and Romanticize Your Life
Sunshine? Fresh air? Trees that won’t lie to you? Yes, please. Go for a hot girl walk, blast your bad btch playlist*, and pretend you’re the main character in a movie about self-love. Bonus points if you dramatically look into the distance while sipping an overpriced iced coffee.
4. Write a Letter (and Then Set It on Fire)
Pour out all your feelings in a letter, ugly crying included. Then? Rip it up, burn it, toss it into the ocean (okay, maybe just the trash). The point is, get the emotions out so they don’t take up prime real estate in your head.
5. Upgrade Your Wardrobe for You
Breakup Rule #1: If you wore it to impress them, it’s officially cancelled. Replace it with outfits that scream “I dress for me now.” Whether it’s a Y2K baddie aesthetic or just cozy chic, wear what makes you feel like you again.
6. Pick Up a New Hobby (Preferably One That Makes You Hotter)
Try pilates, join a dance class, or start learning a new language (French? Très chic). Do something that makes you feel like a total queen and gives you an instant confidence boost. Bonus: It keeps you busy so you’re not tempted to text them.
7. Post a Bomb Selfie and Let the Likes Roll In
Not saying you should do it for validation… but also, validation is kinda nice. Find your best angle, serve face, and hit post. Nothing wrong with a little external hype when you’re rebuilding your self-love empire.
8. Reconnect with Your Girls (They’ve Been Waiting)
Your besties knew this person was a walking red flag, but they were patient. Now it’s time to make up for lost time. Plan a sleepover, go on a spontaneous adventure, or just FaceTime for hours talking about how much better you are without them.
9. Make a New Playlist (Goodbye, Sad Songs)
You know the one, the playlist with all their favorite songs that you now can’t listen to without getting emo. DELETE IT. Instead, create a new one packed with empowering anthems. (Need inspo? Think Lizzo, Doja, and a sprinkle of early 2000s pop icons.)
10. Remind Yourself: They Didn’t Make You Beautiful, You Already Were
No breakup can take away your glow. You were stunning before them, you’re stunning after them, and you’ll be even more stunning when you realize that the real love story is the one you’re writing with yourself.
So… What’s the First Move, Queen?
Which of these are you trying first? Or do you have a post-heartbreak survival hack I need to hear? Drop it in the comments because we’re in this together.