Alright, bestie, let’s get real for a sec. Sometimes, it feels like the whole world is out to ignore, reject, or just straight-up not appreciate your existence. Maybe your crush left you on read (again), your so-called friends are acting fake, or your own brain is your biggest hater. But guess what? You don’t need their approval to be that girl. You need you.
So, grab your favorite snack, put on your most dramatic playlist, and let’s dive into 8 foolproof ways to love yourself, even when no one else seems to.
1. Romanticize Your Own Life (Yes, Even the Boring Parts)
Stop waiting for someone to sweep you off your feet when you can be the main character right now. Blast your music like you’re in a movie montage, wear that ridiculous outfit because it makes you happy, and start romanticizing the little moments, drinking coffee, walking to school, even doing homework (okay, that one’s tough, but try).
2. Set Boundaries Like a Boss
If someone treats you like an extra in their movie, remind them that you’re directing your own. Unfollow toxic people, say “no” without guilt, and stop giving your energy to people who wouldn’t even text back. Protect your peace like it’s the last slice of pizza.
3. Treat Yourself the Way You Wish Others Would
You want love notes? Write them to yourself. Want surprise gifts? Buy them. Want someone to hype you up? Look in the mirror and say, “Damn, I’m actually amazing.” (Bonus points if you say it in a dramatic movie villain voice.)
4. Stop Apologizing for Existing
Newsflash: You are allowed to take up space, have opinions, and be your weird, wonderful self. Stop shrinking to make others comfortable. If someone doesn’t vibe with you, that’s their problem, not yours.
5. Get a Hobby That’s Just for You
Not everything has to be a performance for social media. Pick up something random, painting, journaling, baking, karate, learning to dance like no one’s watching (because no one is). Do it just because it makes you happy, not for likes.
6. Make Peace with the Mirror
Your body? Not up for debate. Your face? Not a before-and-after transformation waiting to happen. Your looks don’t determine your worth, your kindness, humor, intelligence, and ability to quote entire TV shows do. So, look in the mirror and appreciate you as you are.
7. Stop Chasing People Who Wouldn’t Even Jog for You
If someone makes you feel like an afterthought, let them go. You deserve friendships and relationships where you are wanted, not tolerated. If you have to convince someone to care about you, they’re not worth your time. Period.
8. Remember: You Are Not Alone
Even when it feels like no one gets you, there are people out there who would adore your energy, your humor, your weird little quirks. Keep being you, and those people will find you. But first, you have to be your own biggest fan.
Now, tell me: Which one of these self-love tips are you actually going to try? Or better yet, drop your own self-love secrets in the comments, I’m so here for it!