Ladies, we need to talk. If you clicked on this, there’s a very good chance you’re still low-key (or high-key) obsessing over That One Person Who Broke Your Heart. Don’t lie. I see you. And I get it.
But listen, bestie, you deserve so much better than to be stuck in a never-ending loop of “What ifs” and “Maybe one days.” So let’s have a real moment here and address the five self-sabotaging things you’re doing that are keeping you stuck, and how to break free like the main character you are.
1. Stalking Their Socials Like It’s Your Full-Time Job
You say you’re “just checking in,” but we all know it’s a deep dive into their entire existence. You know what their mom had for brunch, who liked their last post, and when they changed their Spotify playlist. STOP. Every time you check their profile, you’re handing them free rent in your mind.
How to Fix It:
Unfollow. Mute. Block if you have to. Out of sight, out of mind, babe. Also, maybe focus on your life instead? Just a thought.
2. Romanticizing the Relationship Like It Was a Fairytale
Okay, Cinderella, let’s be real. If they were that amazing, you’d still be together. But instead, you’re mentally replaying the cute moments and ignoring all the red flags that were practically on fire.
How to Fix It:
Make a list of all the times they made you feel small, ignored, or just plain meh. Keep it handy for when nostalgia kicks in. Spoiler: They weren’t perfect.
3. Reading Into Their Every Move Like You’re a Detective
Did they just like your post? Did they view your story? OMG, they followed your friend’s dog’s account?! Clearly, that means they want you back, right? Wrong. Sometimes people just scroll. Or they’re bored. Or they have fat fingers.
How to Fix It:
Stop overanalyzing. If they really wanted you back, they’d do something real about it. Not just lurk.
4. Talking About Them 24/7 (Even If You Say You’re Over It)
Be honest: Are your friends secretly exhausted from hearing their name? If every convo circles back to “Well, when he and I were together…” then yeah, you’re still emotionally trapped in Ex-ville.
How to Fix It:
Try the Rubber Band Method. Every time you bring them up, snap a rubber band on your wrist (gently, of course, we’re not about pain here). Train yourself to literally snap out of it. Also, find a new obsession. Hobbies are cute.
5. Secretly Hoping They’ll Come Back
Maybe if you post a fire selfie, they’ll regret everything. Maybe if you run into them “accidentally” at their fave coffee shop, the sparks will fly again. Maybe if you just wait, they’ll realize their mistake.
Sweetheart. No. You are not a waiting room. Life is happening right now, and you do not need their validation to be whole.
How to Fix It:
Close the door. Actually, slam it shut. Block the number, delete the chat, write a goodbye letter (and burn it dramatically if that helps). Make space for someone who actually deserves you.
Final Thought: Are You Ready to Move On or Nah?
Now that you know what’s holding you back, are you going to stay stuck, or are you going to glow up and move on? Your ex is part of your past, your future is waiting. So tell me, what’s your first step toward actually letting go? Drop it in the comments!