So, you’ve locked eyes with someone cute, and suddenly, your brain is writing love songs about them. But wait, before you go full rom-com and start doodling their last name after yours, let’s get real for a second. Relationships are fun, exciting, and, well…a total mess if you’re not prepared.
If you don’t want your love story to turn into a chaotic soap opera (with you as the main character sobbing into ice cream), here are five things you must do before diving headfirst into a relationship.
1. Know Yourself (Like, Really Know Yourself)
Listen, if you don’t know who you are, how do you expect someone else to? Before you go “couple goals” with anyone, take some time to figure out what makes you you.
- What do you like? (And no, “whatever they like” is not an answer!)
- What are your deal-breakers?
- What makes you happy outside of a relationship?
Knowing yourself is the best way to avoid losing yourself in someone else. Plus, confidence is hot.
2. Set Your Standards (Because You Deserve the Best, Period)
Not all crushes are worthy of your time. Read that again.
It’s easy to fall for someone who gives you attention, but do they actually treat you right? Before you enter a relationship, make a list (yes, an actual list) of things you will and won’t tolerate. Some non-negotiables:
- Respect (duh)
- Communication (ghosting is for Halloween, not relationships)
- Effort (if you’re the only one trying, that’s a problem!)
You’re not being “picky”, you’re being smart.
3. Get Your Own Life Together First (Love Won’t Fix Everything)
Here’s the harsh truth: a relationship will not magically solve all your problems. If you’re unhappy, insecure, or struggling with self-worth, being in a relationship won’t suddenly change that.
Make sure you have your own hobbies, friendships, and goals. If your world only revolves around your partner, what happens if they leave? (Yikes.) Be the main character of your own life first!
4. Learn to Spot Red Flags (And Actually Walk Away)
Love can make you blind, and not in the cute “I didn’t notice they have green eyes” way. More like “I ignored all the obvious warning signs” way.
Some common red flags:
- They make fun of you in a way that doesn’t feel like a joke.
- They don’t respect your boundaries.
- They only text when they’re bored.
- They guilt-trip you for having a life outside of them.
If you see red flags, don’t paint them green. You are not a fixer-upper project manager, sis!
5. Ask Yourself: Do I Even Want a Relationship?
Here’s a wild idea, what if you don’t need a relationship right now? Society makes it seem like you must be in one, but truth bomb: you’re allowed to be single and thriving.
If you truly want a relationship, great! But if you’re just doing it because everyone else is, take a step back. Love yourself first, and love will find its way to you (without forcing it!).
Final Thought: Don’t Rush It!
Love is amazing, but only when it’s healthy, happy, and right for you. Take your time, know your worth, and make sure you’re entering a relationship for the right reasons, not just because it sounds cute in theory.
So tell me, what’s the biggest relationship mistake you’ve seen someone make? Drop it in the comments! Let’s laugh (and learn) together!