You know that feeling when your favorite show gets canceled right after a MAJOR cliffhanger? Yeah, breakups feel like that, except instead of waiting for the next season, you’re stuck replaying old episodes in your head. Over. And over. And over.
It’s time to break free from that emotional Netflix loop. If you want to move on like the queen you are, avoid these five post-breakup mistakes that are keeping you stuck in the past. Trust me, your future self will thank you.
1. Stalking Their Socials Like It’s Your Full-Time Job
Listen, you don’t need to know what they had for breakfast. You don’t need to see them thriving (or pretending to) with their new haircut. And you definitely don’t need to decode cryptic song lyrics in their captions.
Unfollow. Mute. Block if you need to. Your sanity is worth more than their filtered vacation pics. Every time you check their profile, you’re reopening the wound. Let’s not do that, okay?
2. Romanticizing the Relationship Like It Was a Wattpad Love Story
Sure, there were good times. But if it was that perfect, you wouldn’t be here reading this. It’s easy to focus on the highlights (the cute dates, inside jokes, late-night talks), but don’t forget the full story, like the moments they made you feel small, ignored your texts, or laughed at your oddly specific fear of geese. (Seriously, geese are terrifying.)
Your love story wasn’t a fairytale, and that’s okay. You deserve better than nostalgia goggles.
3. Texting Them “Just to Check In” (AKA Sabotaging Your Healing)
I get it. The urge to send a casual “Hope you’re doing okay ” is strong. But here’s the thing, if they cared, they’d reach out. And if they don’t care, do you really want to remind them that you still do? (Ouch, I know.)
Texting them won’t bring closure, it’ll just bring more overthinking, disappointment, and possibly some cringe-worthy regret. Let them wonder what you’re up to instead. (Hint: thriving.)
4. Comparing Yourself to Their New “Situation”
Oh, so they’ve moved on? Cool. So have you. Even if your version of “moving on” is binge-watching rom-coms in mismatched pajamas, it’s still progress.
Comparing yourself to their new person is a trap. You don’t need to outshine them. You don’t need to prove anything. You are enough, just as you are, and anyone who didn’t see that? Their loss.
5. Waiting for Closure Like It’s an Amazon Package
Real talk: closure is a myth. You don’t need some dramatic heart-to-heart where they finally admit they messed up. You don’t need an apology, a final explanation, or one last hug in the rain.
Closure isn’t something they give you. It’s something you create for yourself. Accept that the relationship ended, take the lessons, and move forward like the unstoppable force you are.
Time to Level Up
You’ve got places to go, things to do, and a glow-up to complete. Don’t let a breakup keep you stuck in the past.
So tell me, what’s one thing you’re doing today to take your power back? Drop it in the comments, and let’s hype each other up!