Ever feel like people mysteriously disappear when you enter a room? Like, one minute you’re vibing, and the next, your friends are suddenly “busy” or “gotta go” with no explanation? Girl, it might not be in your head, you could be doing things that make people low-key avoid you. Don’t freak out! The good news? You can totally fix it. Let’s dive into the tea.
1. Being a One-Upper
You: “I had the worst night ever.”
Her: “OMG, same! But, like, 100 times worse!”
Sound familiar? Nobody likes feeling like their experiences don’t matter because someone always has it worse (or better). Listen first, respond second.
2. Overusing the “Main Character Energy”
Yes, you’re fabulous, but if every convo turns into your personal TED Talk, people will get tired of it. Being the star is great, but don’t forget your supporting cast (a.k.a. your friends) need screen time too.
3. Flaking Like a Croissant
If “I swear I’ll be there this time” is your catchphrase, we have a problem. Canceling plans once is fine. Twice? Annoying. Three times? Yeah, don’t be surprised when you stop getting invited.
4. Never Texting First (But Always Complaining No One Texts You)
If you always wait for others to reach out, they’ll start to assume you don’t care. Friendship is a two-way street, not a “wait-until-they-miss-me” game.
5. Bringing The Drama (ALL The Time)
If every time people hang out with you, it turns into a reality TV episode, they might start changing the channel. Nobody has time for constant chaos.
6. Being a Gossip Machine
Sure, spilling tea is fun, until you realize people don’t trust you with their secrets. If someone tells you something private, don’t turn it into breaking news.
7. The Walking Negative Vibes
Yes, life is hard. Yes, venting is necessary. But if every convo with you feels like an emotional rainstorm, people will start grabbing umbrellas (a.k.a. avoiding you).
8. Trying Too Hard to Be Liked (It Shows)
You don’t need to force it. People pick up on fake energy, and it’s exhausting. Relax, be yourself, and trust that the right people will vibe with you.
9. Ignoring Boundaries
Just because someone is your BFF doesn’t mean they’re available 24/7. If they say they need space, respect it. Clinginess can make people run faster than a WiFi outage during Netflix night.
10. Forgetting to Return the Energy
Do you hype up your friends as much as they hype you? Do you support their dreams, listen to their problems, and show up when they need you? If not, you might be giving taker energy, and nobody likes a friendship that feels one-sided.
So, What Now?
If you saw yourself in any of these (don’t worry, we all have our moments), the fix is simple: be self-aware and adjust! Which one hit way too close to home? Let’s talk in the comments!