Ladies, let’s talk. We all know that texting is basically the backbone of modern relationships, whether it’s with your crush, your besties, or that one situationship that won’t commit (ugh). But what if I told you that your texts might be making you look desperate? Yep. The horror.
Before you spiral into full-blown panic mode and consider deleting your entire messaging history, take a deep breath. We’ve got you covered. Here are 10 texting mistakes you need to stop making ASAP, because you deserve to be seen as the confident, mysterious queen that you are.
1. Double Texting… and Then Triple Texting
We’ve all been there. You send a message. No reply. Five minutes later, another one. Then, in a fit of desperation, you send a “???” like you’re the CEO of His Inbox. STOP.
Fix it: If he doesn’t answer, he’s either busy or uninterested. Either way, your best move is to chill. Let him come to you.
2. The “Good Morning” and “Good Night” Texts
Unless you’re in a full-blown relationship, sending these every day makes you look obsessed. You’re not his mom, girl.
Fix it: Keep some mystery. Let him wonder what you’re up to instead of constantly reminding him you exist.
3. Writing Novels Instead of Texts
If your text is so long it needs paragraphs, just stop. No one (especially a guy) wants to read an essay on why you love Taylor Swift’s new album at 2 AM.
Fix it: Keep it short, playful, and intriguing. Make him want to keep the convo going.
4. The “Seen” Panic Attack
He read your message but didn’t reply?! Cue the internal meltdown. NO. Breathe. It doesn’t mean he hates you.
Fix it: Play it cool. Assume he’s busy and don’t bring it up. If he’s interested, he’ll text back eventually.
5. Overusing Emojis
Sending five heart emojis, three crying faces, and a dozen laughing emojis in one text is not cute. It’s overwhelming.
Fix it: Use emojis sparingly. One well-placed is worth more than a full emoji explosion.
6. Responding in 0.2 Seconds
If you text back before he even locks his phone, you’re sending a message: I have nothing better to do than wait for you.
Fix it: Take your time. Even if you can respond immediately, don’t. It builds anticipation.
7. The “Are You Mad at Me?” Texts
Unless you actually did something terrible, don’t assume every slow response means he’s mad. That just makes you look insecure.
Fix it: Confidence is attractive. If he’s acting weird, match his energy instead of seeking reassurance.
8. The “Hey” and “What’s Up?” Texts
Girl, you are better than this. “Hey” is the most boring text in the universe. It gives him nothing to work with.
Fix it: Start with something interesting. “Hey, I just saw the funniest TikTok, reminded me of you” > “Hey.”
9. Stalking His Online Status
If you know exactly when he was last active and how long it takes him to reply on average… it’s time to log off.
Fix it: Stop obsessing. Keep yourself busy. The less you watch his every move, the less desperate you’ll feel.
10. Apologizing for No Reason
“Sorry to bother you.” “Sorry for texting so much.” “Sorry for existing.” GIRL, NO.
Fix it: Own your space. Text like the confident queen you are. If he doesn’t appreciate your energy, he’s not the one.
Final Thought: Texting should be fun, flirty, and effortless. If you find yourself overthinking every message, take a step back and remind yourself: You are the prize. If he’s worth your time, he’ll make the effort, too.
Now spill, what’s your biggest texting mistake? Drop it in the comments so we can all cringe together!