Alright, bestie, let’s get real for a second. We all have our moments when we feel like a walking disaster wrapped in a hoodie, drowning in iced coffee and questionable life choices. But what if I told you that some of your habits might actually be secret signs of low self-esteem? Gasp! Yep, it’s sneakier than your ex sliding into your DMs at 2 AM.
So, let’s break it down. If you catch yourself doing any of these, it’s time for a confidence glow-up!
1. You Apologize for Everything (Even When You Did Nothing Wrong)
If “sorry” is your go-to word for things like existing, girl, we need to talk. Bumping into a chair? Sorry. Asking for extra ketchup? Sorry. Breathing? Sorry. Listen, you don’t owe the world an apology for taking up space. Own it!
2. Compliments Make You Uncomfortable
If someone tells you your hair looks cute, do you: A) Say “Thanks, I just brushed it today!” or… B) Cringe and say, “Pfft, it’s a mess, but okay.”
If you chose B, you’re deflecting. Compliments aren’t a trap. They’re gifts. Take them and strut away like the main character you are.
3. You Obsess Over What Others Think
If you spend 20 minutes rewriting a text so it sounds casual but not too casual, you might be overthinking it. Newsflash: most people are too busy worrying about themselves to analyze your every move. Post that selfie. Wear that outfit. You’re the moment!
4. You Can’t Take Constructive Criticism Without Spiraling
Someone gives you feedback and suddenly you’re convinced you’re a failure, a fraud, and probably should just move to a deserted island? Yeah, no. Constructive criticism isn’t an attack on your soul. It’s a chance to grow. Take the good, leave the bad, and keep shining.
5. You’re a People-Pleasing Pro
If your default setting is “Yes, of course, whatever you need!” even when you really don’t want to, that’s a problem. Setting boundaries doesn’t make you mean. It makes you emotionally stable.
6. You Avoid Eye Contact Like It’s Your Toxic Ex
If locking eyes with someone feels like an Olympic sport you are NOT trained for, it might be a sign you’re struggling with self-worth. Try holding eye contact for a few extra seconds. You’ve got nothing to hide!
7. You Constantly Compare Yourself to Others
If you can’t scroll through Instagram without feeling like everyone else is living a dream life while you’re just…there, it’s time for a reality check. Social media is a highlight reel, not real life. You’re not behind. You’re on your own journey.
8. You Settle for Bare Minimum Effort from Others
If someone treats you like an “option” and you still entertain them, we need to talk. You deserve more than a half-hearted text or a last-minute invite. Demand better. And if they don’t step up? Walk away, queen.
9. You Downplay Your Achievements
Got a good grade? “It was just an easy test.” Nailed a project? “Oh, I got lucky.” STOP. THAT. Celebrate yourself the way you hype up your bestie. You earned it!
10. You’re Terrified of Being Alone
If silence makes you panic and you constantly need people around to feel okay, it might be time to get comfy with your own company. Confidence isn’t built on outside validation, it starts from within. Take yourself on a coffee date, blast your favorite playlist, and enjoy your own vibe.
So, What’s Next?
If you nodded along to more than a few of these, don’t freak out, self-esteem is a skill, not a fixed trait. The good news? You can work on it. Start by being kinder to yourself, setting boundaries, and faking confidence until it turns real.
Now tell me, which of these signs hit a little too close to home? Drop your thoughts in the comments, and let’s hype each other up!